"My husband has been gone for 6 hours...I miss him & don't know how the week will go with him out of town..."
I thought to myself,
"Hmmmm. Do I feel this way?" At that very moment Mr. H had been gone about the same amount of time with a similar weekly-away schedule
My Self answered myself:
"No, I do not feel this way. Should I?"
I then began to think of the circumstances of our togetherness...that will reach 5 years in August and has included quite a lot of non-together time.
Let me explain....
No, there is too much.
Let me sum up*
August 1999: We met--just friends
Spring 2002: After years of friendship & flirting, a relationship begins
Summer 2002: Mr. H stays in UT, I spend a month or so in TN, and then enter the MTC (Missionary Training Center): APART
October 2002: Mr. H moves back to KY, I fly to Portugal to spend the next 15 months: APART
January 2004: Mr. H lives in KY, I live in TN, we visit each other about every 2-3 weeks: APART
Spring 2004: Mr. H stays in KY, I move to UT to do some BYU-ing: APART
June/July 2004: We are engaged: APART
August 2004: We get married in TN, move into our first home=KY: TOGETHER
April 2005: Mr. H stays in KY, I go on a trip to UT alone: APART
Summer 2007: Mr. H lives in TX for a summer internship, I stay in KY: APART
Fall 2005-Spring 2009: Mr. H is a full-time student + working...many, many, many days/nights: APART
June 2008: Mr. H out of town for business trip (just weeks before our first child is born): APART
August 2008: Mr. H flies back to KY, Baby & I extend our UT trip an extra week: APART
April 2009: Mr. H studies for finals in KY, Baby & I go on spontaneously fun trip to UT for 9 days: APART
Mother's Day 2009: Mr. H leaves for last business trip w/work: APART
I suppose we are used to bouts of time apart mingled with our together-lives, and that's just how the game has played out for us. Perhaps things will change as our lives breeze in and out of experiences and places. Of course we do miss each other when we're not together, but I doubt we will ever feel a *longing* like that after only 6 hours.
And so there. I have explained myself sufficiently. I will not feel bad about it any longer!
Besides,
This is true love. You think this happens every day?*
*Name that movie
2 comments:
I guess I have been spoiled in that I haven't known time apart from Dan. And 14 years - 3 kids later, I am not sure I want to learn what it is like. I think I would go crazy!
As a mom, I have been impressed and proud of the way you have been so independent and strong in the times you have been apart, which really HAVE been alot. The hardest for me FOR YOU was when he was in Texas. You didn't whine and complain, you just kept working, entertaining, and LIVING your life. what a good example to me...!
(of course, I am always well aware of the valiant spouses of our men and women in the military AND our historic example of pioneer women who made do without their men for months/years....)
At this point, while I DO like to accompany Dad on Business trips ( like NOW) I also can enjoy the time he is gone...its like a slumberparty with my self...I stay up and read or watch tv and pretent I am on vacation!
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